Life changes and life lessons

[capncrunch]

For the ones that had gone through or are going through having to deal with a will and family's attitude issues I feel for yeahs. Now my situation with siblings and my wife's was entirely different. My step dad past away about 7 years ago, and my mother past about 5 years ago. My father and step mother are still alive.  Both my sisters and I worked out what my mom had. even though she did not have a will, we was able to be civil and did what we had to do.

Now my wife's mother has past away 13 years ago and her father has past away, will be two years in November. The will of her parents came out. My wife knew a long time ago that she would not have received what she should of. And had to get an attorney for the house that we paid for, (luckily she kept paper for proof. And yes for the few that knows the situation, her father did evict her out of this house) And it took us 14 months to get the house, but my wife was knocked out of things that would of seriously help our family out. And as far as my wife is concern she has no family what so ever. But she also found out that two of her sisters and one of her brothers some how also took away from another sister. Now her one brother(her other brother lives out of state and not sure of his situation) is now taking my wife's sisters to court and will be a long battle among them for the rest of the things. It is sad, in my opinion, that family has to be thieves sort of speak and try to take things to just make themselves look more important and impress others. My wife was very stressed for the fourteen months that she had to fight and is more relaxed now that she knows that her family can not take away a home from us.

So for the ones that are going through a inheritance fight, or will soon go through it. Don't feel like you are the only ones out there. And good luck.

[maskedmarvel]

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[dumdave]

I had an aunt that passed away and left everything to myself and two siblings. My sister was the executor. She didn't do anything w/ the will. Finally my bro helped her through it TEN YEARS LATER. I'm sure my Aunt would have been upset w/ this. Then my sister refused to talk to her family. This included my parents. Mother never failed to cry about this (literally cry) until she died 12 years later. Theses things can just blow up a family. Sad, very sad.

[dog]

My brother and I argue about this occasionally. I tell him he gets all the parents stuff and he tells me that I get it, LOL. On the other hand, it will be a fight on the wifes side of the family when her mother passes. It is amazing what kind of bitterness is brought out in the settling of an estate. The benefactors make it all about themselves and not about what the deceased wishes were. I guess if someone thinks they are entitled to something before a death, it needs to be put in the will if all possible. Life is really too short to worry about it and is it really worth the creation of ill will in the remaining family members to argue about it? I had a great aunt who passed 30 years ago, and certain members haven't talked to each other since then,due to thinking they were "entitled" to more in the will.

[capncrunch]

Masked Man, I agree. My wife is the youngest of six kids. Two out of three sisters and one of the two brothers think that they are above everybody else. My wife stated from the time her father pasted away, that a judge should make it where everything be sold and after the attorney's take their income, split the rest of the money. There was farmland involved plus a house that is worth $260,000. Her two sister and the one brother all thought that everything should of gone to them only. It came down to greed. My wife has not ever had much of a relationship with her father and or her siblings. She was hurt but at the same time really did not want anything. Having material things is not important to my wife anyways.

[capncrunch]

But the one lesson that my wife really has learned over the past year and half, is that nobody really cares, and that life goes on.

[chevypower]

It's all about the mighty Dollar!